It would be to read minds.

But, since I can't, I enjoy open honest communication.  This is where relationships so often fail... people don't say what it is that they are thinking, wanting, needing in the moment and then later come back with "well you should have known..." and that is such craziness!!  Tell it like it is, my friends, and say what you mean and mean what you say.

P.S.  Ask me in person or via email sometime what my "secret" secret power would be!

I've always liked KT Tunstall's song "Suddenly I See" so I did a google search on it today.  Wow, didn't know it was the opening song for Devil Wears Prada, but I find it funny! Wikipedia says it was inspired by KT seeing a picture of Patti Smith in a magazine.  So of course I had to look up who Patti Smith is, LOL. (Sorry 'bout that....)    But did you know Patti Smith was called the "Godmother of Punk"??

Back to my point, KT writes in this song how seeing Patti inspired her to want to become a great singer.  I guess the chick in Devil Wears Prada felt that way too, wanting to become a great fashion magazine editor.  I think that is all great!  The funny thing is that when I hear the song, I like to imagine that OTHER people think that way about me.  That somehow, the people who surround me feel the benefit of calm... and want to share in my life. 

Let's see, next look up.... narcissism.....     I guess narcissism is not completely true when people actually do ask me, "Why do I feel so good about myself when I am with you?"    I LOVE THAT!!!!  I do love my life, and I love sharing it with the people who appreciate it as well.

(P.S. You'll have to look up the lyrics yourself, but even better spend a buck and buy the song!  Support our artists the old fashioned way, without a government handout!)

That said, WORKING towards that goal is not easy!  It's hard to drag my cute butt out of bed even earlier to get in a good workout.  It's HARD to set the time to get into the gym for the needed strength training.   Oh, and since it's still within the first month of training I am also pretty much SORE AS H...!!!

One of my friends pointed out, however, how "wonderful" it is that I am taking this time for "myself".  Now, I really get what she was intending to say!  It is I guess "for myself" that I am setting these goals, and I will LOVE it when I walk on the beach this summer with my thong bikini looking GOOD on my firm butt and flat 6 pack abs! But somehow working out does not really seem like ME time.

As I pondered this, I realized that true "me" time is not time spent pursuing goals.  It is not time spent even with family or friends with whom I have expectations I need to meet. It's the difference between reading a text book (pursuing a degree) and reading a book "just" for pleasure.  It's running to get in shape, vs. walking around the lake just taking in the air, the beauty, the experience.  

Everyone has their different needs for "amount" of "me" time they need...but we all do need it.  People seem to have different ways they meet it (spent with or away from other people, for example) but again it matters not so much HOW you get your me time, just that you do. 

It's a beautiful sunny blue sky day in the Land of 10,000 lakes.  I think it's even 36 degrees, above freezing!! Whoo-Hoo!  So I went out driving, opened all the windows, and cranked the stereo. 

My new car (love it!) shows what songs are playing, and I head a new one today that got me thinkin'.  It's by 3 Doors Down and called "Let Me Be Myself".  What I found so interesting is that the singer is NOT a woman.  Think about it.  In our society, so often it seems to be women "railing" against men, demanding equality etc etc.  But the picture painted in this song was different.  It was almost as if he was pleading with her to let him be who he really wants to be.  So, maybe he does not want to "always" be the "thoughtful understanding gentleman" she "expects".  Maybe sometimes he just wants to sit on the couch or hang out with the guys, and she looks down on him for that. 

All I can say is Ugh.

I love being myself, who I am doing what I like.  And I like being with others who are being themselves, too.  If there is such a thing as a "perfect" relationship, wouldn't it involve BOTH parties being able to "be themselves?"  That's what I love about finding the "right" friends in this business, people who LIKE to hang out, talk, and just "BE" once in a while.  RELAXED.  Sensual, without expectation other than respect and pleasure.

XO

--Wendy 

Escape....

The walls, the halls, the office

The people, the contracts, the pressure 

The building, the crowd, the street

Escape to a place above this all...

Escape....

Up the elevator, your cares falling away

Down the hall, anticipating the view

Into my arms,  into our own little world

Enjoy the Escape for as long as we are together. 

(and perhaps long after!) 

Copyright 2009