Hi!  Yes I know it's been forever since I blogged... I don't MEAN to be bad, I've just been BUSY!!!  I think about things I'd love to write/blog about but then... I never have/take the time to actually log in and DO it.  So now I'll write down a small hodge-podge of thoughts.

I saw an interesting re-run of a HOUSE episode where a woman was a blogger and when asked what type of heart valve she wanted (pig or plastic)  she immediately reached for her computer to  ask her readers what they thought, though her husband was sitting right THERE and the decision also affected their ability to have children EVER.  Ouch.  Blogging is an interesting phenomena... diaries are private, personal thoughts that we write down for ourselves to probably never be read by anyone else.  Blogging?  Private personal thoughts we write down for ANYONE AT ALL to read.  It's really quite odd.

I also found an interesting artilce on Yahoo about things NOT to say at work, and why.  I'm sure you can google the whole thing if you are interested (LOL....did I really just write google??? Google yahoo??)  but a couple of points stood out:  DON'T use the words "Try" and "Whatever".  To quote the article which quoted "Yoda" "Do, or do not.  There is no Try."   I love that.  I live by that.  At least I "try" to!!!!  ;-)  As for "Whatever" for all you "Whatever-ers" out there:  "This word is a trusted favorite of people who want to dismiss you, diminish what you say, or get rid of you quickly. "Whatever," they will say as an all-purpose response to your earnest request. It's an insult and a verbal slap in the face."  Yowzer.  Careful with that one!!!

Let's see, what else has been on my mind.  Comments:  I can't really access them.  If you like something I write, please feel free to email me.

Thoughts on books, movies, life....set up an appointment and talk about it!  I'm even more fun in person than on this blog!!!!

Kisses....

XO

Wendy 

....were a bit more complicated to publish than I thought, LOL!!!

But thank you for your comments.... there are several you can see now under the blog below this one if you click on the blue "Comments" under the blog.

Thank you for your kind words!

XO

Wendy 

I saw the movie Julie & Julia (recap for those not aware:  Julie blogs about her year in which she makes every one of Julia Child's recipes in the Mastering the Art of French Cooking cookbook).  Julie (the blogger) wonders at some point: Is anyone even reading this?

Well I wonder that all the time as well.  I know people DO read what I write (thanks to those of you who let me know and discuss this with me when we meet!) but someone made this comment recently about a post that was on a discussion board, put up by another escort.  "Really, she writes all this obscure stuff like we possibly could care about what she is thinking about."

Um... wow.  Ok.   Afraid that could easily be me he was talking about!!!

But thanks to the Four Agreements (see blog below, lol) I'm not taking it personally, per se.  I AM however.... drum roll please... enabeling "Comments" (see the little tiny words below my blogs now that says "Comments"?)  So I'm curious to see what comments you might post and be willing to share.

Eventually Julie does start getting comments, and not all of them are from her mother asking why she is taking on this insane task.  First, I agree that doing some 500 complicated recipes in one year's time sounds nearly insane, but I'm not a cook either.  Second, I really really hope my mom does not send me a comment here! 

So to, um, all my fans???  Comment away!

XO

Wendy 

P.S. The movie also parallels Julie and  Julia Child's lives (done beautifully by Meryl Streep) from Child's auto-biography "My Life In France" which I'm discovering is an excellent read!

I was listening to the Snow Patrol song "Chasing Cars" as I was driving recently...it's a GREAT "cruising" song, easy to sing along with and nearly heartrending while still optomistic.   I think what I like best is the idea of just finding time and space to just "BE" sometimes... to "just forget the world". 

Some of the lyrics:

"If I lay here / If I just lay here / Would you lie with me and just forget the world? 

"Forget what we're told / Before we grow too old / Show me a garden that's bursting into life.

"I need your grace / to remind me / to find my own."  

The title of the song, acording to Wikipedia, comes from something the lead singer's father told him once when he was chasing after a girl he liked.  He said something like "You're like a dog chasing cars.  You'll never catch her and if you did you wouldn't know what to do with her anyway."  LOL!

There are many other great lines in this song, you can utube it and watch the video or the lyrics while the song plays.  But  the essense of the song for me comes back to finding space to play, relax and remember that we are supposed to be human "BEings" not human "DOings" and that the grace we are seeking is really our own.

XO

Wendy 

I hope everyone had a restful holiday, I love it when it works out that the holidays are so close to seekends that you really feel you get a good amount of time off to rest and relax and get revved up for the new year!

I saw a magazine article about eating better this year which also said that in addition to making good food choices we need to manage our stress, create at least one "clutter free" environment, exercise, and have sex.  All of these things are condusive to losing weight!  The same magazine had a chart on who is more likely to be overweight:  people who are dating, co-habitating, or married.  Any guesses?

Be well, be healthy, and Happy New Year!  If you need any help with any of the above, maybe we should get together and talk about it!

XO

Wendy 

I am currently re-reading a favorite book of mine, "The Four Agreements" by Ruiz.  I've pondered posting these four agreements with regards to discussion boards of ALL sorts, so now I will!

"Be Impeccable With Your Word" whereas "impeccable" means "without sin" so... say what you mean, mean what you say, and be respectful!  No gossip.  No putting others down... it only reflects badly on YOU.

"Don't Make Assumptions" so if you don't KNOW something to be true, or you find yourself ASSUMING something will be true based on your vast life experience... or lack thereof... ASK questions until you are clear.  There ARE times when asking some questions in "this" world will be in appropriate or taken the wrong way, but in reality... we all have the right to ask any question we want, AND we all have the right to say "yes" or "no" to answering that question, and it can be done in a polite way.   Remember that to ASSUME is to make an ASS out of U and ME.  (That IS how I remember how to spell that word!)

"Don't Take Anything Personally"  Of course I understand that no one on this board "ever" does this (ha ha ha!!).  No really, I "get" that THIS one would be, is, and will always be a challenge for most people!!!  But the way this book describes it (correct me if I am wrong, anyone who knows this stuff better than me... I won't take it personally, I promise!) WHEN you take things personally you are generally making an ASSUMPTION that what they said was actually ABOUT you when the reality is that it is about THEM.  THEY had an idea things would be different than they were, or THEY are having a bad day at work or at home and (wow!) here's a chance to "vent" on a board...anonymously!! Whoo Hoo!  Who knows even who "they" are?  Unless you ASSUUUUUUME you are actually knowing the people behind the aliases on this board just because you read it and based on your vast life experience...well I think you get the point.  For more info...the book is short and readily available.  

Finally, number four, "Do Your Best" and give others the benefit of the doubt that they are also "doing their best" on every given day.  But if the lady or gentleman you are meeting has just  gotten a bad phone call or really is insecure about themselves... why make it worse?  Give them the benefit of the doubt that they are doing their best, and also do YOUR best to make the best of the situation you ARE in (as opposed to the one you had built up in your mind, or wanted to be in, or expected to be in, or whatever other illusion of perfection you may be desiring at the moment.

See?  SIMPLE!

All my best...as always....

XO

Wendy 

Wouldn't it be nice if we could all just be WHO WE ARE?

I missed going out on Halloween this year but I reflected on the fun of it all... a chance to dress up and act a little silly and "be" someone either famous or funny or sexy or something else JUST for a while.  What if EVERY day we could dress as we really LIKE to dress, and enjoy rather than dread being judged on it?  But we are judged, and we do dread it.  "Too Sexy" "Too Conservative" "Too Sloppy" "Too Whatever".  And what do we gain by our fear of being judged?  Are we happier?

At the same time, there is certainly something to be said for doing (and looking!) your best!  I enjoy the show "What Not To Wear" (sometimes more than others!) and have to laugh at some of the ways people present themselves. But on that show these people are really trying to project a new image, and the hosts are helping them.   Good for them.

I am in Las Vegas right now and I have to admit that one of the fun parts of being here is dressing as sexy as I want and NOT being considered (by most) as "over the top"!  Well, only by those fuddy-duddies who just don't know how to have a good time and you know what? When I am here, I just don't care (unless you do!) LOL.

XO

--Wendy 

I just picked up the book "My Horizontal Life" by Chelsea Handler.  I've never heard of her, or the book, but as I walked by it at the airport today it almost called my name!  LOL!  I mean, come on!!!  The title is fantastic!

But the book has me in stitches, too.  (A little pun for Halloween next week! Where does time fly to anyway??)  It turns out a lot of people probably do know who this author is, as she is well known (it seems according to the book jacket) on the comedy circuit.   Each chapter is a bit of a different story and if you want to laugh AND have a great discussion about One-Night Stands, let me read a chapter or two to you!  It's fun!

Anyway, it's been a bit since I've had something inspire me to write but this book is really funny.  Join me for some laughs (and giggles!) or if you prefer to laugh alone pick it up yourself!  

XO

Wendy 

So I'll be in Chicago next week....while the Packers and the Vikings share the spotlight on Monday Night Football.  Wow!  Who will Chicago root for in THAT match up?  It should be an interesting place to be!

Of course the Bears will play one more game before then, but with the Vikings currently up 3 - 0 you'd think the Bears fans would naturally have to root against them.  After all, if the Bears are at 3 - 1 and the Vikings lose, then the Bears are on top.  But that means....drum roll please... rooting FOR the Packers???????  Is that POSSIBLE for a Bears fan?  But to root FOR the Vikings means either rooting for a tie leading the division (3-1 each) or even the Vikings leading if the Bears lose on Sunday.

I wish all decisions could be simple, yet it seems most decisions are much like the one described above:  Damned if you do, and damned if you don't!  Who to trust?  What to say?   All convoluted in emotion and rational perspectives.  So then perhaps the only way to make a decision is to go with whom you trust, and stick with whom you are most loyal to.  Look at the character of the team, or person, behind your decision, then move in the direction most likely to keep you happy and safe.  

As I like to say:  "Friends Are Rare, Handle With Care!"

XO

Wendy 

I was writing to a friend and mentally reflecting on the suddenly cooler weather, the changing leaves, and the sense of "normal" that I somehow feel when fall hits each year.  It's like somehow after that last three day holiday of the year (Thanksgiving is four, Chirstmas is unpredictable) things click back into a pace that is more predictable, maybe even easier in a way.

Of course there is a ton of work to be done.  Suddenly we're almost in the "last quarter" for year ends that end the end of the year.  Suddenly the plans for Chirstmas must be made.  Summer clothes must be put away, but with that is the joy of discovering how wonderful a sweater feels again.

I wonder how much of this sense of "normal" is ingrained in most of us by our school years.  Oddly I found it hard to sleep Monday night... no explaination.  But on Tuesday a business owner I was talking to mentioned that her children had kept her up most of the night with school jitters.  In that case, maybe I'm not the only one feeling sleep deprived, LOL!

At any rate, normal is a good feeling for me.  One of the highest compliments I receive is that I am so "normal".  I don't have a wacked out life, or drama always going on.  I keep things simple, clean, and comfortable.  I cherish normal, and invite you to experience my normal life for a little while too!

XO

Wendy

JUST FOR TODAY

A friend sent a list of reminders, and I found them to be inspirational so I copied them here:

>1.  Just for today, I will try to live through this day only and
 >not set far-reaching goals to overcome all of my problems at once.
 >
 >2.  Just for today, I will try to be happy.  Abraham Lincoln said,
 >"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
 > He was right.  I will not dwell on thoughts that depress me.  I
 >will chase them out of my mind and replace them with happy
 >thoughts.
 >
 >3.  Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is.  I will face
 >reality.  I will try to change those things I can change and
 >accept those things I cannot change.
 >
 >4.  Just for today, I will try to improve my mind.  I will not be
 >a mental loafer.  I will force myself to read something that
 >requires effort, thought, and concentration.
 >
 >5.  Just for today, I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will
 >do someone a good turn and not get found out; if anyone knows
 >about it, it will not count.  I will do at least two things that I
 >know I should do but have been putting off.  I will not show
 >anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I
 >will not show it.
 >
 >6.  Just for today, I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I
 >can, dress becomingly, talk softly, act courteously and speak ill
 >of no one.  Just for today, I won't try to improve anyone except
 >myself.
 >
 >7.  Just for today, I will have a program.  I may not follow it
 >exactly, but I will have it; thereby saving myself from two pests -
 > hurry and indecision.
 >
 >8.  Just for today, I will find at least ten minutes to relax
 >alone.  During this time, I will reflect on my behavior and will
 >try to get a better perspective on my life.
 >
 >9.  Just for today, I will be unafraid.  I will gather the courage
 >to do what is right and to take the responsibility for my own
 >actions.  I will expect nothing from the world, but will realize
 >that as I give to the world, the world will give to me.
 >
 >10.  Just for today, I will eat and drink properly.  I will think
 >of nourishment as the purpose of food and not merely the
 >satisfying of hunger pains.  I will eat with my stomach and not my
 >eyes.
 >
 >11.  Just for today, I will carry tasks through to completion. 
 >Even little things when done and done well will add to a feeling
 >of exalted satisfaction.

May all your days be lived "just for today"

XO

Wendy 

I love a good party...and last night was a GOOD party!  I have only been to a few Meet & Greet opportunities around the nation but have now attended two in New York City and they ROCK!  

What do I love about them?  Most people dress up so nicely, and it's just fun to mill around and talk and flirt and perhaps daydream of other times and potentials!  There were two other ladies from MN at this party, I started to think it was the New York Meets Minneapolis party, LOL, but no one seemed to mind.  But the ladies I met who came there from Chicago and New York and all around the nation were wonderful!

I thought the party couldn't get better when I was slipped this little 3 paragraph note:

"I have had the great good fortune ot spend time with Wendy over the last couple of years.  She is more than a GFE.  When you're with her she is your Girlfriend.  She has no SO and no kids making her quite unique in the world of escorts.

"Her love of life and natural curiousity about all things is infectious.  She is fun to talk with and also a good listener, a rather rare quality these days.  If you can get her to talk about herself she's been more places and done more things than most people twice her age.

"Wendy, I wrote this and wanted to submit this as a review, but of course the powers that be do not consider this "type" of information worthy.  But I wanted you to know this is the effect you have on me, and I'm sure most other people you meet."

So to my friend who wrote this, and to others who think this way of me...thank you.  YOU are my blessings, and I am thankful you are in my life.

XO

Wendy 

Wandering in new found places
I continue to find
Novel and
Exciting reasons to appreciate all my
Yesterdays which lead me
Onward to my tomorrows.
Usually this make me glad, but
When I feel otherwise I am
Especially grateful for the
Numberious freinds I know I can
Depend on....including
You

.

Can you relate?
Often the smallest kind word
Means the most.

(Hope you enjoyed that... did you read the message from top to bottom, first letters?  Hee hee hee!  Can you write one?  I'd love to see it!!!)

XO

Wendy 

For my birthday I wanted to write down a few of my favorite quotes.  Some of these are more recent favorites, others have been a part of who I am for a very long time.  I hope you enjoy reading them, and if any touch you, or you think you know of other quotes I would enjoy, I hope you will let me know!

One I've lived by for a long time: "The better part of valor is discretion" --Shakespeare

And one about me:  "Thank God she can't cook. But she does dine out very well. lol"  (from a friend)

"Only the person who risks is free"--Author Unknown from the the poem "Risk Taking Is Free"  Please...google this poem, it's amazing.

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten." -- Tony Robbins

"Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more. " -- Tony Robbins

"I've found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often." --Brian Tracy

"If what you are doing is not moving you towards your goals, then it's moving you away from your goals." --Brian Tracy

"I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn. " Leo Buscaglia

"I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things... I play with leaves. I skip down the street and run against the wind." --Leo Buscaglia

"Life is like dancing. If we have a big floor, many people will dance. Some will get angry when the rhythm changes. But life is changing all the time." --Miguel Angel Ruiz

"Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret."  --Miguel Angel Ruiz

"We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey." --Stephen Covey

"Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age." Anais Nin

and finally one last one I can't hear enough of:  "Wendy, you're the best!"

Be well!

XO 

Wendy